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Problem Solving in Attempted Relationships

 
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PostPosted: Wed Jan 10, 2007 12:36 am    Post subject: Problem Solving in Attempted Relationships Reply with quote

Observed Phenomenon:

One of the main reasons non-white males and non-white females break up in attempted relationships is they have no method for solving problems.

Hypothesis:

There are many reasons non-white males and non-white females fail at an attempted relationship and the main reason is because there is no SYSTEM for that attempted relationship to feed on. The SYSTEM of racism (white supremacy) is setup to mistreat people based on color and have the people classified and forced to function as “non-white” to mistreat themselves, as individuals, and each other.

When non-white males and non-white females attempt a relationship, if they are not attempting to replace the SYSTEM of racism (white supremacy) with a SYSTEM of justice at the same time, the attempted relationship will fail unless both the non-white male and the non-white female accept each others niggerized behaviors, meaning accept their position as functional inferiors.

Because the SYSTEM of racism (white supremacy) is setup to control the behaviors of people who are classified as non-white and mistreat, misuse and/or abuse, non-white people to the satisfaction of the white people who practice racism (white supremacy), when a non-white male and a non-white female attempt a relationship they must involve themselves in a process of solving problems, preferably solving problems before they become problems but if it already a problem solve that problem without producing more problems.

The way to solve problems without producing more problems is, in the process of solving any problem, make sure that no person is mistreated and also make sure the person who needs help the most get the most help. This method of solving problem without producing more problems will head you down the path of producing a thing called justice.

This experiment is written to allow for the refinement of a process for solving problems in an attempted relationship between a non-white male and a non-white female.

Experiment:

Here is one possible method for solving problems in a so-called relationship between a non-white female and a non-white male:

Initiator = Person who initiates conversation about there being a problem.
Helper = Person who the Initiator is talking to.

1. Initiator states “We have a problem, Let’s TALK”.
2. Helper and the Initiator give each other their undivided attention.
3. Initiator states “let me tell you what I think the problem is” and proceeds to explain what they think the problem is or will be.
4. The Initiator then asks the Helper if they have any questions.
5. If the Helper has questions about the stated problem the Helper asks those questions. The Helper always begins by making the following comment: I agree that what has been stated by “the Initiator” as a problem is indeed a problem. All questions are asked and answered before proceeding further.
6. If the Helper has no questions about the stated problem the Initiator proceeds to give the Helper a possible solution to the stated problem that ensures no person is mistreated and also ensures the person who needs help the most get the most help.
7. The Initiator then asks the Helper if they have any questions about the proposed solution.
8. If the Helper has questions about the proposed solution the Helper asks those questions. The Helper always begins by making the following comment: I agree that what has been stated by “the Initiator” as a proposed solution could very well be the solution to the stated problem. All questions are asked and answered before proceeding further.
9. If the Helper has no questions about the proposed solution the Initiator asks the Helper for a possible solution to the stated problem that ensures no person is mistreated and also ensures the person who needs help the most get the most help.
10. The Helper proceeds to give the Initiator a proposed solution to the stated problem that ensures no person is mistreated and also ensures the person who needs help the most get the most help and then asks the Initiator if they have any questions about their proposed solution.
11. If the Initiator has questions about the proposed solution the Initiator asks those questions. The Initiator always begins by making the following comment: I agree that what has been stated by “the Helper” as a proposed solution to the stated problem could very well be a solution to the problem. All questions are asked and answered before proceeding further.
12. If the Initiator has no questions about the proposed solution given by the Helper, both the Initiator and the Helper come to an agreement of which proposed solution is the best solution to the stated problem, agrees to implement the best solution to the stated problem, and implements it immediately.
13. If a better solution is discovered in the future and surfaced as a better solution to the problem by the Initiator and/or the Helper both must agree on the better solution and agree to follow the better solution and implement it immediately.
14. Success of problem resolution shall only be measured by the behavior of the Initiator and the Helper.

Recording Data:

Use whatever recording device you can such as pencil and paper, audio recorder, video recorder, memory, etc., to make sure the problems and their proposed solutions are recorded so that they can be revisited to record the results.

Materials Needed:

A non-white male and a non-white female attempting a relationship and a willingness to solve problems without producing more problems.

Expected Results:

(1) It will be difficult to complete all 13 steps on the initial use of the problem solving method.

(2) Both the non-white female and the non-white male will feel as though their concerns have been addressed.

(3) Both the non-white male and the non-white female will learn, if practiced repeatedly, a protocol for listening to each other and understanding when to speak in a conversation awhile solving problems.

(4) The focus will increase of constructive interaction between the non-white female and the non-white male will increase.

(5) When practiced repeatedly, both the non-white male and the non-white female learn how to solve problems and promote justice at the same time.

(6) When practiced repeatedly, both the non-white male and the non-white female learn how to minimize conflict by maximizing constructive interaction.

(7) Both the non-white male and the non-white female learn how to solve problems without producing more problems.
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PostPosted: Mon Mar 17, 2008 10:04 pm    Post subject: Reply with quote

While running this experiment it became evidently clear that it is also a good idea to come up with a Bottom Line List. The Bottom Line List is a list of things that cannot be tolerated in your attempted relationship. It should be made perfectly clear that if any of the things done on either person's Bottom Line List it is grounds for ending the attempted relationship. This gives both people an idea of both peoples preferences and provides focus of what to stay away from or what not to do. Each person's Bottom Line List may be different but both people have to abide by each others Bottom Line List.

This Bottom Line List should be delivered to all potential partners before the attempted relationship becomes "official". Once the relationship becomes "official" any additions to the Bottom Line List must be negotiated by both people. Some of the things on a Bottom Line List may include:

(1) Never hit each other and/or cause physical bodily harm to each other.
(2) Never lie to each other.
(3) Never participate in sexual intercourse and/or sexual play with another person as long as the attempted relationship is "official".

These are just a few. I have seen many lists with some things that you would not believe. The focus of the Bottom Line List is to provide insight for both people about how both people think based on things that may have happened to either person in the past and also to provide a guideline or list of parameters upon which the attempted relationship is bounded.

The experiment produced the idea for the Bottom Line List and to have it presented while in the process of going through the questions you have for each other before you make it to the bedroom. This way both people know what to expect from each other. This is a method for preventing problems and this method should be tested. Each person must know, understand, remember, and agree to stay away from everything on each others Bottom Line List before the attempted relationship becomes "official" and after the attempted relationship becomes "official".

After looking at several Bottom Line Lists from different people you will begin to see a pattern of what people think, in general, are the things that make up a sound and lasting relationship.
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